Speaking of housewife makes you think I'm too young to be talking about something like this. Haha, yes I am young. I am absolutely annoyed with the fact people look down on someone who works as a housewife. I've actually dreaming myself marry to a man whom I love and be a good housewife to him and my children. Housewife is a kind of job, I call it as a job. Because either way, a housewife supposedly received money from his husband or maybe something that is worth a money.
As a muslim, we call it Nafkah. And this kind of money which is paid to the housewife isn't a type of bullying or whatever negative statement you may want to say. It is more like to show a couple who is willing to build a household together (you could please google or ask the elders for better information). Housewife does a lot of tasks. Job = task. The question is, why do people look down on them, housewives?
I have no intention to fight against whoever who might hurt with what I'm trying to say but I really do want to know why do you people look down on them? A housewife does a lot of tasks and I believe is more tiring than a married woman who works more than 20 hours per day. I too believe, any tasks in our home will never be done. Not until you die yourself.
Today, in Facebook. We all know how public that site is. I saw a woman, I believe she is married. From what I saw, she received a comment from we-should-not-mention-who-is-she saying that a housewife is stupid for staying at home. As we all agree, we judge based on what we see. Not based on what we know. Most of us, agree?
Let we-should-not-mention-who-is-she be an immature woman. This immature woman said that a housewife who stayed at home has nothing better to do than taking care of her child. She added, a housewife has no income money because well, where can you get money if you don't work under government or private company? Minus the fact you received money from your husband because this immature woman thinks that money is still your husband's money as it was in the first place.
This immature woman too said that if every women work we could dress up beautifully to go outside of the house and meet new people. These are better than to stay at home doing chores and you'll be smelling stinky as you're sweating. Yucks! She added, a housewife can never buy something for herself as she has no money. I disagree. Sustenance comes from The Creator and He knows best. Also, I think we have to accept whatever it takes because that's life. Good things come from good stuff. But then again, wouldn't it be nice if our husband surprises us with something beautiful like a cute handbag that you loved? I don't know about you but I wouldn't mind.
More, the immature woman said housewives will surely degraded as some said their husbands gave too much hard times but that is between relationships and I think that is something personal. I can't help that, can I? She added, people outside the world will think housewives will have no knowledge as they have no job to earn money. Who said that? Maybe they just want to focus more on building their children's future with something colorful.
Blaming our children having lack of knowledge because of them never trying hard is not the biggest problem. Because I personally think, children who are lack of knowledge caused by their parents who lack of time spending with them too. Let's not talk about this now.
I was wondering, what does she meant when she said we can only dress up beautifully outside but not inside the house? I mean, I've been living in this odd world for almost 18 years and I've always see Mom dressing up so lovely like an angel in the house. Maybe not just for Dad but also for us kids and for herself. Why would you want someone else to see your beauty when you can have your husband to see your beauty? Are you that desperate? Your husband's attention is worth thousands of men.
To end this, I think being a housewife isn't a mistake. It's a matter of different people has different minds and we have no rights to stop them. Come to think of it again, this is life. People will never satisfied with our choices. Like me, I want to join Childhood Education Development and be a kindergarten teacher or open a Day Care for Children and Old Folks. I also would like to work as an accountant as my part time or as a part of my fun job. InsyaAllah. But I know myself and these are one of the nice things I would love to do/be. Maybe in the future after I deliver my baby, I wouldn't want to work as I know my weakness. I know I'm dreaming too much but please don't stop me. Dreaming makes me happy hehe.
I hope people who look down on me or people like me should just stop because we never really care about them being so "up" anyway.
